Expand Your Kitchen

Photography courtesy of Johnson Hardware.

How space-saving sliding door hardware can help

Your kitchen is the heart of your home. It’s a place where family and friends gather. It’s also a space where you may seem to need more space, whether you’re making breakfast for the kids or hosting a big dinner party.

Using innovative wall-mount door hardware, you can unlock your kitchen’s potential by freeing up the “real estate” traditional swinging doors take up. Due to their unique space-saving possibilities, versatility and aesthetics, wall-mount sliding doors can make your kitchen more open and inviting.

A standard hinged door consumes 10-14 square feet of floor space to swing open and shut, putting kitchen space at a premium. Single or converging wall-mount sliding doors allow you to utilize this floor space for kitchen furnishings, storage, extra mingling room for guests and more. They also give kitchens a more spacious look and can enhance your home’s design flow, making it more welcoming and facilitating movement between rooms, which is essential for gatherings and larger families with children.

To maximize your kitchen’s footprint and optimize functionality, an option like wall-mount door hardware from Johnson Hardware can provide a new world of architectural possibilities for your kitchen, regardless of size or layout. Ideal for wider kitchen entryways, converging wall-mount door hardware allows doors to glide smoothly as they open whenever you want a free flow for entertaining or close for privacy during meal preparation.

Converging doors can add sophistication or create a cozy feel, depending on the hardware configuration and door style you choose. Available with or without fascia in either clear satin or bronze anodized aluminum, the U.S.-made hardware and track exceed ANSI safety standards and can successfully complete 100,000 opening and closing cycles. You can also add your own valance to match the door material and trim.

Wall-mounted sliding doors also work well for kitchen pantries and large recessed shelving areas where you want to conceal clutter and ensure clean, streamlined spaces. With Johnson’s array of hardware configurations, you can create personalized looks that integrate the door designs and materials you desire with options for doors up to 125 pounds, which are equipped with wall-mounted jump-proof aluminum box tracks and adjustable door hangers for easy installation, as well as options up to 400 pounds, featuring wall-mounted, heavy-gauge I-beam tracks and smooth-rolling, ball-bearing four-wheel hangers.

Installing wall-mount sliding door hardware in your kitchen – and beyond – can be an easy yet high-impact improvement that reduces space constraints while adding warmth, functionality and appeal to your home. For more information, visit johnsonhardware.com. (Family Features)

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Johnson Hardware

KLM Royal Dutch Airlines Spoils Customers with New RITUALS Beauty Line

Exclusive Products by Europe’s Leading Bath and Beauty Brand to Launch This Month

When the winter timetable starts on Sunday, October 28, KLM Royal Dutch Airlines will pamper its customers with an exclusive product line with Europe’s leading bath and beauty brand, RITUALS – The Amsterdam Collection. The products have been developed specially for KLM customers and consist of products that evoke the ultimate sense of relaxation during and after the flight.

In creating the Amsterdam Collection, RITUALS was inspired by the idea of “Where the Far East and the historical West first met.” The scents in the new line are a reflection of Dutch tulips and Japanese yuzu. The RITUALS products will be introduced on board in phases starting Sunday 28 October 2018.

The look and feel of ‘The Amsterdam Collection’ is inspired by the design of ‘The vase with lid’ (dated 1695-1700) by the artist Gerrit Pietersz. Kam. The vase has been owned by the Rijksmuseum since 1969. The flowers and branches on the vase with lid are based on Asian ceramics and textiles.

RITUALS in Economy Class and World Business Class

The new RITUALS care products are available exclusively on KLM flights. For Economy Class customers, there will be hand care foam in the lavatories. World Business Class passengers will also have access to hand and body lotion, hair gel, and body mist in the lavatories. They will also receive a stylish set of face moisturizer and lip balm.

Tulips and yuzu

Tulips are known for their soothing and softening effect on dry and sensitive skin. They help protect against free radicals and have moisturizing properties that prevent skin from ageing. Yuzu is both a citrus tree and fruit. The yuzu – sometimes called the Japanese citron – is highly nutritious. Its juice is often used as a painkiller and promotes relaxation. The fruit’s flesh is rich in antioxidants.

For KLM, the partnership with RITUALS is a new step in giving KLM passengers a memorable travel experience, allowing them to arrive at their destination refreshed, rested, and energised.

About RITUALS

RITUALS is the first brand in the world to combine home and body cosmetics. With an expansive product line including body care, scented candles, fragrance sticks, assorted teas, skin care, precious mineral make-up, and Soulwear, the brand transforms everyday routines into more meaningful moments. Each product, over 400 in total, is inspired by an ancient Eastern tradition. In 2000, RITUALS opened its first store on Amsterdam’s Kalverstraat, followed by openings in such vibrant cities as London, Madrid, Antwerp, Paris, Lisbon, Berlin, Stockholm and New York. The luxury brand has almost 750 stores, more than 2500 shop-in-shops and 4 city spas in 27 countries worldwide.

5 Ways to Show Your Cats You Love Them

Cats take on so many different roles within their owners’ lives and families, such as cuddle buddies, emotional support animals, quiet companions and purring playmates. Each furry feline deserves the best, so as a cat owner, it’s important to shower your pet with love and make him feel special all year round.

Here are five ways you can show your cat just how much you care. For more information on caring for your cat, visit Sheba.com and TemptationsTreats.com.

  1. Give Them Their Own Space – They may be small, but cats need their own space to exert energy during the day. Provide them with an area to call their own to play with and store their toys. If you live in an apartment or a smaller home, vertical space works great for cats. For example, giving your furry pal a cat tree to climb on shows you understand his needs.

 

  1. Know Nutrition – It’s important to understand the ingredients you are feeding your feline and the effects they may have on his body. When in doubt, look for food and treats made with real meat to provide protein cats need, like the SHEBA® brand. Many of the premium recipes come in innovative, single-serve packaging to provide fresh feline meals every time.

  1. Incorporate Hygiene into Your Routine – Treating your cat to a nightly routine of brushing is a great way to show some love while maintaining hygiene. Keeping your cat’s coat healthy and shiny can also make him an even fluffier cuddle buddy, so you can both benefit from the bonding experience of a nightly brush and cuddle session.

  1. Make Playtime a Priority – Cats have a natural curiosity and love to get their paws on things. Make sure you’re giving your cat lots of love by knowing what kind of toys will give him the best experience, like the TEMPTATIONS™ SNACKY MOUSE™ Toy. It’s a mouse-shaped wobble toy, designed to dispense delicious treats and provide a fun, playful treating experience for both cats and owners.

  1. Stay Proactive with Health – An easy way to show love for your cat is to schedule annual visits to the vet. Don’t just wait for signs of illness; be proactive and keep your furry friend up-to-date on all shots and checkups to help ensure a happy and healthy life together. (Family Features)

Photos courtesy of Fotolia.

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Sheba

Temptations

5 Easy Ways to Add Colorful Curb Appeal

Before the dull and dreary days of winter set in, you still have plenty of time to update your home’s curb appeal with pops of color that add a cheerful touch to offset the oncoming gray weather.

Get a Step Up with Railings

Chipped, tired railings can make a home look outdated and unkempt, but making those pieces look new again is a relatively quick and easy project. If paint has chipped or there’s damage to the wood or metal, you’ll need to sand and repair before adding fresh paint. Keeping the railing monochromatic in a color that complements the rest of the house’s paint and trim creates a clean look. If you want to add some variety, use a secondary shade in the same color family and apply it to the main posts or the spindles.

Create DIY Doormats

The entry is a focal point of most homes, so sprucing up the front of your house can make a big impact. An affordable and unique way to create a “wow” moment is to craft a DIY doormat with spray paint. A chevron pattern is an easy way to make a statement by simply using painter’s tape and two different colors of spray paint. Consider an option like Krylon ColorMaster Paint and Primer – 25% More, which comes in 60 colors for indoor and outdoor use and offers more product to perfect your project.

Put the Spotlight on Light Fixtures

Small splashes of color can go a long way, especially with a feature like exterior light fixtures. For safety purposes, it’s a good idea to remove the fixture completely before starting your project, and be sure to turn off the power supply before disconnecting electrical cords. For light fixtures to stand out against a neutral-colored home, try spray painting them a bold hue, such as bright yellow, for a burst of color.

Pretty Up Planters

A pot filled with vibrant blooms is an easy way to bring some brightness to your home’s exterior, but one alternative that works year-around is to make the planters themselves the focal point. You can update any planter or pot with the right spray paint, like Krylon Fusion All-In-One Paint and Primer, which adheres to plastic, metal, wood and more. It provides a high-quality finish resistant to rust and fading without the need for sanding or priming. After your planter is dry, you can fill it with the vegetation of your choice, such as evergreens, which are hardy enough to last all season long.

Refresh Patio Furniture

Over time, patio furniture loses its luster. If it’s still in good shape, you can bring it back to life with a fresh coat of spray paint. All the angles can make it difficult to cover every surface, so choose a product that promotes easy application, like Krylon COLORmaxx Paint and Primer. Available in a wide variety of colors, it features a big push-button spray tip for application in any direction, including upside-down. Remember to tilt furniture back and apply color to the feet and legs for an all-over finish that’s ready to weather the season.

Explore more ideas to give your home a seasonal color boost at TodayWeSpray.com. (Family Features)

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Krylon

The Death of the Angry Black Woman Invites Self-Reflection; Helps Women Learn How to Bury Their Anger and Embrace a New Self

Pastor Jameliah Young-Mitchell

Pastor Jameliah Young-Mitchell

Charlotte pastor and face of the popular Car Chronicles Movement, Jameliah Young-Mitchell has penned The Death of the Angry Black Woman—a book published by Warren Publishing that discusses stereotypes faced by African-American women. The book released at #1 on Amazon.com for New Releases in the Anger Management category. 

Anger can get the best of many women, but when anger erupts into rage and leads to shouting, fighting, and name-calling, it’s time to look within and make a change. The Death of the Angry Black Woman boldly acknowledges stereotypes faced by women in the black community and uncovers the seeds that lead many to live anger-filled lives. Instilled with Biblical scripture and jaw-dropping honesty, this debut book from Pastor Jameliah Young-Mitchell, the voice behind the popular Car Chronicles Movement, will empower you to bury your anger, reject false labels, and embrace the new you.

“I wrote this book for all the women out there who are dealing with anger that they have yet to find the source of,” said Young-Mitchell. “Many women in the black community come from backgrounds of abuse, mistreatment, violence––and they become fighters. Through my book I hope to be that voice in their head, the one we all hear but rarely acknowledge, encouraging them to move on, let go of anger, reject hateful labels, embrace their powerful femininity, and live the life God intended them to live.”

Pastor Jameliah Young-Mitchell

Pastor Jameliah Young-Mitchell

 

Pastor Jameliah Young-Mitchell is the daughter of the late Evangelist Violetta B. Young and Pastor James I. Young, and grew up in Brooklyn, NY, as the youngest of four kids. She has preached across the United States and internationally and is the pastor of Unity Church Charlotte. Young-Mitchell is an experienced keynote speaker for women’s empowerment, teen and youth mentoring, corporate America, and relationships. She is the voice behind the popular Car Chronicles Movement where she can be seen live on Facebook Monday through Friday at 7:30 a.m. Young-Mitchell is the proud mother of a son and daughter and resides in Charlotte, NC, with her husband, Calvin W. Mitchell. 

The Death of the Angry Black Woman is available at warrenpublishing.netAmazon.com, or wherever books are sold.  

The Death of the Angry Black Woman
978-1943258-92-5
Released: July 2018
Soft Cover
$15.00

Achieve a Blissful Night’s Sleep with New Sleep Ritual Massage at The Spa at Four Seasons Resort Orlando

New treatment provides an ideal routine to achieve the perfect sleep, night after night

In Orlando, the theme park capital of the world, the action-packed, on-the-go mentality and thousands of steps logged while enjoying the exhilarating attractions can be tiring.  With so much to see and do, rest time and actual quality sleep is often not made a priority.  Four Seasons Resort Orlando at Walt Disney World Resort intends to help travelers with its new signature Sleep Ritual Massage offered at The Spa. The treatment aims to induce a complete state of relaxation and sleep readiness, and is accompanied by a home care kit to assist with achieving the ideal sleep at home, night after night.

The Sleep Ritual Massage was developed in partnership with Robert Michael deStefano, sleep wellness expert and co-founder of wellness company Longeva.  The custom treatment incorporates breathing techniques that focus on seven specific somatic zones, plus a combination of sleep-inducing botanical scents and touch therapies that are designed to be ultra-relaxing, eliminating stress and tension and creating the perfect state of sleep readiness. The 80-minute massage treatment, USD 360, is ideal to reserve at The Spa in the evening, after a light dinner.

“The Sleep Ritual Massage is equal parts sleep wellness education and motivation, stress detox and luxury escape,” says deStefano. “Combined with the take-home DreamKit, the treatment is a potential game-changer for parents, grandparents and anyone else who is not satisfied with their sleep.”

Guided by dreamy relaxation music and sleep-inducing aromas, the Sleep Ritual Massage is a multifaceted treatment that will take the guest through an incredibly relaxing journey that will sooth, stretch and expand the entire body, mind, and spirit, creating a state of total sleep readiness.

The DreamKit includes the market-first SleepCeuticals™ products used in the Ritual Massage. Along with its all-natural skin nourishers and moisturizers, SleepCeuticals features a custom, blend of 15 sleep-inducing, non-synthetic botanical extracts and essential oils. The SleepCeuticals found in the DreamKit include; Sanctify Dream Cream™, Anoint Sleep Serum™ and the Dream Mist™ spray. Added into the kit is The Sleep Ritual Music™, a downloadable sixty-minute recording of clinically studied sleep-inducing music (also used in the massage) and a simple, step-by-step guidebook written by deStefano.

Derek Hofmann, Senior Director of Spa at Four Seasons Resort Orlando, hopes that this new treatment will help guests better understand the importance of creating an environment for quality sleep. 

“We know that jet lag and insomnia can sometimes have an effect on some travelers, and combined with Orlando’s action-packed environment, sleep is often put on the backburner,” notes Hofmann.  “I had this treatment a year ago and was blown away.  I can’t wait for people to experience this revolutionary treatment at The Spa.” 

The Spa at Four Seasons Resort Orlando is a true haven, featuring 18 treatment rooms including four couples’ suites and two couples’ spa bungalows, plus a full-service hair and nail salon. The Spa offers two co-ed relaxation lounges, plus a post-treatment Solarium room, and women’s and men’s locker rooms complete with whirlpool, steam room and Experience Shower. Ensconced within the luxurious Golden Oak neighborhood, surrounded by lakes and lush landscaping, spa-goers will find they’ve discovered a true sanctuary.  For appointments: 407-313-6160.

Bringing Baby Home

5 tips to prepare for a newborn’s arrival

Bringing your baby home with you for the first time is typically one of the most exciting moments for a parent. However, preparing for baby’s arrival can be a little overwhelming at times.

While there’s no one-size-fits-all manual for becoming a parent, these tips can help ensure you’re ready to bring your little one home.

Prepare the Nursery

Setting up the nursery can be the first real “I’m going to be a parent” moment, but it’s also an important step to take before bringing your little one home. Pick a room in your home, clear it out and thoroughly clean every surface. Set up all necessary furniture, such as the crib, changing table, dresser and rocking chair or glider, then decorate the room as you see fit. Also, organize any other baby essentials you already have on-hand.

Baby-Proof the House

Before your baby arrives, it’s easy to dismiss potential safety hazards around your home. Bringing a child into the space, however, exposes not only common safety pitfalls like stairs, electrical outlets, candles and cords but also easily accessible cabinets, heavy items not anchored to walls and sharp edges on tables, fireplaces and the like. Do a once over to install cabinet locks, foam edge coverings, outlet and door handle covers, safety gates and anchors. Once your child is mobile, it’s a safe bet to re-walk your house for new potential dangers.

Pack a Hospital Bag

Your baby may arrive earlier than expected, so packing your baby hospital bag about a month before his or her expected arrival can help ensure you’re ready to go at a moment’s notice, just in case. Be sure to include copies of any necessary medical paperwork, clothing for both mom and baby – usually a few days’ worth unless the hospital is in close proximity to your home – essential toiletries, electronics chargers and books or games to help pass the time in the hospital.

Ready the Car

To bring your baby home, you are required by law to have a properly installed car seat. Whether you opt for an infant-only seat or travel system or a convertible car seat that can be used as your child grows, setting the seat up in your vehicle ahead of time gives you the opportunity to understand how to safely and securely install it. While the hospital will check your seat before sending you on your way, many local fire and police departments offer free car seat safety inspections, as well.

Set Some Boundaries

While a new baby can cause quite the stir with family and friends vying for time to come visit, it’s important to set some ground rules in advance of your arrival at home. Decide whether you are OK with visitors just dropping by or if you would prefer to create a schedule with specific dates and times for accommodating guests. Don’t be afraid to limit the number of guests at first or to ask those who are sick to hold off on stopping by since newborns are more susceptible to illness.

Find more tips to prepare for your child’s arrival at eLivingToday.com.

3 Tips For A Healthy Baby

When you’re a new parent, once you’ve successfully navigated the first car ride home from the hospital and the euphoria of this new little life begins to fade, you’re left with one resounding question: now what?

Over the years, you’ll have many responsibilities as a parent, but your most important focus in those early days, weeks and months is your child’s health and development, including his or her brain, gut and senses.

Brain

Numerous studies offer evidence that a child’s learning abilities are developed during early childhood, meaning before even heading off to school. That doesn’t mean you need to reach for the flash cards right away, though. Instead, focus on simply talking, singing and playing together. These activities can help develop vocabulary and other important cognitive functions.

Gut

When it comes to a baby’s gut health, the first six months are critical because the immune system and metabolism are developing and being programmed for the future. Research published in “Cell” shows good gut bacteria during infancy, specifically Bifidobacterium, plays a critical role in establishing a healthy gut.

It’s estimated, however, that nine out of 10 babies have low levels of Bifidobacterium, according to a study published in “mSphere.” There is a way for parents to identify if their baby has low levels of Bifidobacterium, though, by asking three simple questions. If the answer is “yes,” chances are your baby’s Bifidobacterium levels are low.

  • Were you or your baby given antibiotics during pregnancy, childbirth or in the first six months after childbirth?
  • Were you or your baby born via C-section?
  • Does your baby have diaper rash or 5-plus loose, watery poops per day?

If you’re concerned about your baby’s gut health, talk with your pediatrician about an option like Evivo, the first and only baby probiotic clinically provento restore the levels of B. infantis, a specific strain of Bifidobacterium, in a baby’s gut and reduce bad gut bacteria linked to colic, eczema, allergies, diabetes and obesity by 80 percent.

Senses

Sensory cues are what allow your baby to take in information about surroundings. Exposing your baby to various sensory experiences funnels a wealth of information to help develop skills and better understand the visual, audible, olfactory and textural stimulants that he or she encounters.

Find more information and ideas for ways to improve your baby’s health at evivo.com. (Family Features)

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eLivingToday.com

Tips for Turning History into Your Story

If you have ever thought about exploring your family history, now can be the perfect time as October is National Family History Month. To get started, these four simple tips can help you unlock new understanding and make meaningful connections. You can also consider sharing these tips with loved ones so they can join in on the fun, too.

Call Your Family

In almost every family there is someone who knows all about the familial tree and history. You might be unsure of the exact date your grandparents were married, but someone else may know. Building knowledge of your family history can be an excuse to call your mom, your grandma or even your great aunt. They likely have stories and photos you don’t have and would likely be willing to share them.

Start a Family Tree

Starting a family tree can be the next step to learning about your family history. Building out your tree online can be simple with a service like Ancestry, which has been turning history into your story by transforming names into family and distant places into home for more than three decades. With more than 20 billion records and 3 million family history subscribers, the service provides all the information and tools you need in one place to make discovery fun and easy. Enter what you know about yourself, your parents, your brothers and sisters then add your grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. If you aren’t sure about dates and places, make an educated guess then upload photos and stories.

Message Cousins

As you continue to explore your family tree, you may find other relatives have already researched pieces and parts of your family tree. Maybe a fourth cousin has your common great-grandparents in their tree with photos and stories about their lives. Find out what other information they might know or share what you know about your branch of the family tree.

Take a DNA Test

DNA testing has revolutionized the way people discover family history. With a service like AncestryDNA, you become part of a genetic network that includes more than 10 million people. In addition to providing ethnicity estimates, the service also compares your DNA to the people in the network and matches you to anyone sharing enough DNA with you to point to a recent common ancestor within the last 8-10 generations. To make those connections even easier to find, attach that family tree you built to your DNA results, and find more information at Ancestry.com. (Family Features)

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Ancestry

Simple Home Renovations: 7 Projects that Improve Resale Value

7 projects that improve resale value

Even if you have no immediate plans for leaving your home, it’s a good idea to approach renovations with resale value in mind. Upgrades that are likely to appeal to future buyers protect your investment while also improving your enjoyment of the home.

One key to a successful renovation is figuring out how to personalize the space without making it so customized that it’s not attractive to other potential owners. For example, eliminating a bedroom to create a giant walk-in closet may help achieve your dreams, but losing that bedroom can be a major hit to your home’s value.

A good rule of thumb is to focus on aesthetics when it comes to integrating more of your personal tastes, because these can be easily changed with a coat of paint or minor work. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t make other, more significant changes to enhance your home.

These renovation ideas – which include both cosmetic touch-ups and more labor-intensive suggestions – can help boost your home’s value.

Open space

Older homes were often designed with a boxy, formal layout that is less conducive to most modern families’ needs. Today’s open floor plans offer functionality for everything from keeping an eye on the kids while making dinner to entertaining guests. This type of floor plan can also make small rooms feel larger and invite more light into darker parts of the house.

The most cost-effective way to create an open space is to remove non-load-bearing walls (load bearing walls help support the roof; while they can be removed there’s typically quite a bit more time, labor and expense involved). Removing a wall may not be that complicated unless you encounter plumbing or HVAC ductwork that needs to be relocated. You’ll likely have some electrical outlets to move, and both the floor and ceiling will need attention to remove lingering signs of the former wall.

Color change

Although paint is one of the easiest ways to personalize your home, it’s also one of the least expensive, simplest ways to improve its value and appearance. A fresh coat of paint, inside or out, can create an appealing illusion of newness no matter the age of your home. For maximum resale value, stick to neutral tones so future buyers can focus on envisioning the place as their own, without the distraction of your own vibrant choices. If you don’t like the thought of boring beige, consider adding accent walls for pops of color that can be easily changed down the road.

Climate comfort

Not every aspect of home improvement is visible at first glance like a fresh coat of paint; some value-boosting upgrades are more behind the scenes. One example is climate management. If you renovate a space that needs better climate control, or if you add a new room where extending the existing ductwork is impractical, a split-ductless HVAC system may be the perfect solution. The ductless design saves HVAC contractors time during installation, therefore saving homeowners money.

An option like Mitsubishi Electric’s MLZ One-Way Ceiling Cassette fits between standard 16-inch ceiling joists, eliminating the need for more complicated construction. The sleek, narrow-body design can be easily installed in existing homes and new construction projects. Additionally, these ceiling cassettes can be serviced from directly beneath the unit itself without an access panel, further eliminating the need to modify the surrounding area which can also provide significant cost savings on installation.

Adjustable lighting

A room’s ambiance can be completely transformed with lighting. For multi-purpose rooms, an option like dimmer switches lets you customize the lighting to fit the use, which can vary throughout the day. A well-lit living room is essential for a large gathering or a small group gathered for game night. That same space can be equally inviting for an intimate conversation or a casual movie night with the lights turned down low. One of the best parts is minimal experience is needed to swap out standard switches for the more versatile dimmers. Plus, in today’s technology-driven world, there’s an app for seemingly everything – including lighting. Homeowners can control the ambiance from their phones by installing smart lightbulbs and lighting strips.

Grunge-free garage

Even though a garage’s functionality is the top concern for most buyers, a dingy, unkempt space can be a real turn-off. One way to instantly brighten and refresh the space is an epoxy coating on the floor. Applying the coating is relatively easy and once dry it helps prevent unsightly stains and damage in the future. Combine that with a thorough sweeping, wiping down walls and other surfaces, and organizing the clutter to create a more inviting space you can utilize to the fullest.

Understated elegance

Features like crown molding and other wood accents such as chair rails are elegant upgrades that can elevate a home’s value with a relatively modest investment. An office or dining room is the perfect place to introduce these design elements to add a bit of formality to the space. You can also find crown molding in spaces like the living room, with the molding coordinating with built-in shelving flanking a fireplace. While getting the angles and fit just right is hardly a beginner’s endeavor, it’s a project that can pay dividends in the long run.

Better bathrooms

Many homeowners approach a bathroom upgrade with big projects in mind, like swapping out the vanity, replacing the tub or installing tile flooring. However, it’s possible to make a noticeable impact with much smaller changes. Simply updating bathroom fixtures and fittings such as shower heads, faucets, towel racks and lighting can transform the space with minimal effort and far less work and expense than a large-scale renovation.

Learn more at mitsubishicomfort.com. (Family Features)

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Mitsubishi Electric Cooling & Heating

Dating While Sober: How to Pass Up Booze Without Passing on Love

When it comes to dating, “let’s grab a drink” is often the go to first date invitation. Many opt to cure first date jitters with a libation or two to “chill out” and feel more comfortable.  What happens if you are a recovering alcoholic and you can’t opt for “liquid courage” to get you through those awkward dating moments? For approximately 30-million Americans who identify as recovering from alcohol abuse, dating while sober is often a tricky reality. With tips on how to pass on booze but not on love, is Dr. Duy Nguyen, D.O., a Board-Certified Psychiatrist in General Psychiatry practicing at Beachway Therapy Center, a drug and alcohol rehab in Boynton Beach, Florida.

1. Take the lead and suggest a dry date.

The easiest way to maintain sobriety is to avoid situations where alcohol is present. Having several alcohol-free dating options already in mind can empower you to steer the date in a dry direction more easily.  Opt for daytime dates that are more activity focused, get you outside enjoying quality time together away from any bar. “Doing activities that aren’t conducive to drinking such as museums, galleries, fairs, and festivals could be fun. People who don’t drink often are the most creative when it comes to choosing fun dates,” says Dr. Nguyen. 

2. Create your new story and get honest.

In the spirit of 12-step recovery, which emphasizes the importance of self-honesty, aim for truthfulness in how you present yourself. If an on-line dating profile questionnaire asks how much you drink, don’t let fear about what others may think prevent you from checking the “Never” box. “Frame out when and how you plan to reveal what inspired your decision not to drink. Simply saying that you no longer drink alcohol is enough in the beginning. When you get to know someone better then share your story from a place of an achievement you’re proud of,” Dr. Nguyen encourages.

3. Get clear on what you want in a partner.

If someone has an issue with you not drinking, then they clearly aren’t the right person for you and that’s okay. Decide if you would prefer to date someone who understands recovery, may even have been through it themselves or is a health enthusiast who also doesn’t drink.

Dr. Nguyen says that, “While there are a lot of benefits to dating those in recovery, it can also lead to risky situations. There are often times in which one partner relapses and the other follows, although this isn’t a guarantee.”

If you decide that you want to date non-recovering people, it’s best to have some clean time under your belt and be solid in your recovery, as this can lead to tempting situations. 

4. Trust your gut, nerves can be a good indicator!

Your nerves could very well be indicating that there is something there. That is, chemistry. Dr. Nguyen says, “Alcohol typically dulls our sensory and emotional experience so without it we’re open to the raucous disarray of emotions that warp us when we’re under the spell of a potential new love. Of course, that doesn’t make the experience of a new relationship any easier. Try to reframe the experience in a way that embraces these jitters.”

5. Don’t make love the new addiction.

On top of the excitement that comes with meeting a potential new partner, scientifically we produce numerous hormones that can increase that excitement. “A new relationship can very much become a replacement drug,” says Dr. Nguyen. He adds, “Many confuse infatuation with love, so it’s a good idea is to take it slowly. Again, make sure that you are at a place emotionally that can handle all of the new feelings that come with dating and be prepared if relationships don’t end the way you expected.”

6. Embrace the awkward.

“Being sober will probably increase the number of awkward pauses, says Dr. Nguyen. “We’re sharper and more present when we’re not drinking which can actually be used as an advantage to navigate conversation and ask the other person about themselves which enables a deeper connection and more trust,” he adds.

7. Keep first dates short.

The majority of first dates that extend into the wee hours of the morning are alcohol fueled and can lead to unintended promiscuity. Dr. Nguyen suggests going into the date with a self-imposed time frame in mind, two to three hours and then making another date if there’s interest. For a recovering alcoholic, especially someone in early sobriety, being “forced” to bar hop will be like white knuckling it on a scary roller coaster.

If you feel dating is hard enough and are more comfortable with dating others who practice a sober lifestyle, there are many options:

https://www.sobersinglesdate.com

https://www.12stepmatch.com

http://www.soberandsingle.com

https://www.aadatingservice.com

https://www.soberdatingservice.com

About Dr. Duy Nguyen:

D.O. is a Board-Certified Psychiatrist at Beachway Therapy Center trained in general psychiatry who specializes in providing psychiatric care in a variety of settings including residential drug and alcohol rehabilitation, inpatient and outpatient mental health, and the VA Medical Center. Dr. Nguyen is committed to providing a high level of evidence-based psychiatric care in the drug rehabilitation setting in addition to having a holistic focus on healing and recovery. 

About Beachway Therapy Center http://www.beachway.com

Beachway provides a continuum of care, from PHP (Partial Hospitalization Program) to Outpatient services. The facility offers a fully individualized treatment plan that meets the clinical and medical needs of each client usually lasting between 30 and 90 days.  Beachway provides an extremely low client to therapist ratio and under high level professional supervision, clients can begin to recover in a safe, residential-like environment.  CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) motivational interviewing, addiction counseling, 12-Step orientation, DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy,) trauma-informed practices and a wide variety of supportive group therapies are offered.